Friday, August 9, 2013

Letting Go

One of the most inspiring stories of the Old Testament is that of the birth of Moses.  At the time of his birth, Pharaoh  had decreed that all newborn Hebrew males be cast into the Nile (Exodus 1:22, RSV).  The mother of Moses, no longer able to hide her son, put her trust in God and cast him into the very river she had tried to keep him from.  It is very easy to get caught up in situations we can control.  In my recent experience in breaking up with my girlfriend, I tried too hard to keep a close relationship that was not possible.  I wanted her to open up to me when she couldn't, and by repeatedly trying to make her do so, I only caused myself more pain.  Sometimes we have to let things go to a point of total trust and give up all illusions of control.  The thing I've feared most about this break up is losing my best friend.  But if she is unable to open up to me, to really trust me, do we even have a friendship?  I need to let go of our friendship and trust that God will take control and help us both to grow.  

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  1. Matthew:
    I find this inspiring. As you may or may not know I am going through a very dark period in my marriage with Aunt Janet. Though I love her and my children and never intended for any of this we find ourselves distant and lost. I find myself giving God control almost on a minute by minute basis. I do not want my family to break up and I know in my heart and soul if she would come to counseling we could make this marriage work again. She is hurt and unable to trust me and open up to me. She has a fantasy in her mind that I am the source of all the pain and by divorcing me she will be "all better". My struggle is letting go...I love her and my kids so much letting her go is extremely painful and terrifying to me. But i need to stop cushioning the blow of the consequences of her decisions, she needs to feel the pain of this huge mistake. I am moment by moment praying God will help me to let go and just trust He has a plan...unfortunately I am impatient and want it now, but in His time all things happen. Please add us to your prayers. I pray constantly for my ears to open, my mouth to shut, and for God to bring me where He wants me. I pray for my kids to not suffer through this dark and painful time. I pray Janet's heart softens and she can see with her eyes what is right in front of her. Thanks Matthew...very wise words!
    Uncle Matt.

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  2. Thank you, Uncle Matt! I'm so glad you found this helpful. I will certainly keep your family in my prayers.

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